Category: Personal Development

The Power Of Your Self Image

What I’m about to share with you can transform your whole world overnight, sooner even. First of all, your self-image is not what you think it is. next, you are not in direct control over it, or how it affects your life. Believe me when I tell you it is affecting every aspect of your life. Self-image can be said to be at the core of all results: Your Wealth, Success, Career, Your Happiness, Relationships, and to a large extent even your Health, Everything!

When you change the cause, you change the effect, its a law. Self-image is the cause, so by altering it, you alter everything. I hear you asking, everything Mike? Yes, everything!

Warning*** Just because you know, understand and agree with what I am saying and about to say, it will NOT benefit you without persistent action. This kind of growth can get uncomfortable and without an accountability partner to hold you on course, you are likely to evade your own efforts. This is too important to try and wing-it, get a coach like me, or someone to help you.

“Don’t be surprised if you grow uneasy–that’s a predictable part of the process. When you take a Quantum Leap you ride the situation, but you don’t really control it all that much.” -You2 by Price Pritchett, Ph.D.

Conscious Mind Vs. Subconscious Mind/Emotional Mind

First, understand our conscious mind is like an ant, and our subconscious mind is like an elephant. The elephant always wins! Next, the subconscious mind never sleeps, is always paying attention, never forgets anything.

Consciously, you feed the subconscious ideas which it stores, waiting for proof, always looking to prove or disprove the idea. Ideas are proved and accepted as fact by an emotional impact and by corroboration from trusted sources.

There is an excellent example in Don Miguel’s wonderful book “The Four Agreements”: The story goes one day a little girl was having fun and full of joy, so much so it was pouring out of her and she was singing loudly and bounding around the apartment. Meanwhile, her single mom was coming home with a headache after working a double shift and just wanted peace and quiet. The mom ended up snapping at her little girl and shouting Shut up, Shut up, Stop Singing you have an ugly voice.

Without knowing what she did, the little girl never sang again, in fact, she became shy and didn’t like to speak. Here is a great example of an emotional impact and a trusted source. As little people, we find agreement with much that is not true.

As we get older we are not as open to suggestion from others, but what about the first job you got? What if you didn’t do well and you were chewed out and or fired? What if your grades were poor, what effect might that have had on your idea of how smart you are. Understand that for better or worse our self-image was mostly formed from perception and opinion (not real facts) during the time we were still growing and developing.

Consciously we understand this, but remember the subconscious never forgets. If you truly understand this and forgive yourself, an immediate catharsis may be felt. Forgive yourself, and forgive everyone involved… Echart Tolle –  the great spiritual teacher says: “Forgive every Moment”… This is a wonderful spiritual practice.

James Allen said it best: “We are thought evolved beings”.  And especially,  “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” (I think the bible said the last one first)

Change Your Self Image and Change Your World

We are given to change our mind and change our world. It is all you… You thinking, you believing, you being, you doing, you having, etc. As soon as you begin to practice these lessons I am offering and change your inner beliefs, you will begin to see results. We are told and I am fond of saying: “As within, so without”.

Read my last article on Paradigms for an even deeper understanding of how negative habits are formed, but I want to move on to the cure!

First a Pep-Talk

Stop running yourself down! Don’t you know how wonderful you are? You are Gods highest form of creation, and you are a creator yourself. The tool by which you may fashion (create) anything, ANYTHING AT All! Is by your own wonderful imagination. You are more miraculous than the stars, more awe-inspiring the oceans, more majestic than the forests.

You can do whatever you set your mind to. The past is dead and does not accurately predict what will happen in the future. So dream, and DREAM BIG, make up your mind once and for all what your great purpose is to be and set out to accomplish it, start now. If your mind should wander down a crummy road, draw it back and focus on your definite aim in life. You have just as much right to abundance and happiness as anyone.

Changing Subconscious Beliefs | Changing Self-Image

Changing the subconscious usually takes time but can happen in an instant with an emotional impact. The way most people go about it is called spaced repetition, or affirmations, also called auto-suggestion in the 1937 book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill.

The one thing I didn’t tell you yet about the subconscious is that it can not tell reality from fantasy. Whatever thoughts you believe it will accept as true, this is how you were programmed, to begin with.

Use your imagination and create a new and improved self-image. you need to write it out, speak it into existence, record it, play it back for yourself, and drive it home until the subconscious begins applying the new beliefs. You have to act the part as you read it, really feel it. Memorize it and repeat it to yourself throughout the day, every day.

There is a wonderful program from Peggy McColl, she teaches the Law Of Attraction. She uses what she calls a Power Life Script to manifest anything you want in life. It works in perfect harmony with rewriting self-image, as we must first BE… before we can have. This is based on a higher law- The Law Of Vibration. This law of vibration also explains why we cannot outperform our beliefs.

I want to encourage you to get on a free coaching call with me. No strings attached and if you think there is enough value perhaps you will become a client.

Understanding the essence and meaning of paradigm is essential to any type of growth and development. This is because 96-98 percent of all behavior is controlled by our paradigms. A paradigm is a habitual way of looking at anything, it is a multitude of ideas that you hold and which form your beliefs. Simply put a paradigm is a belief

Self-image is one great example of a paradigm. Self-image is formed through a variety of repeated experiences and exposure to the opinions of others (specifically trusted sources). As the father of psychology James Allen noted: “We are thought evolved beings”. Once a paradigm is set, it becomes the rule by which we base decisions.

In Maltz’s Book Psyco-Cybernetics he explains that a paradigm is like a self-correcting Computer. Like a temperature thermostat, once the set norm is out of accepted parameters corrections are automatically made to get back to normal, or “feeling normal”.

This is why we make a decision to do something and even make great strides for a while and then end up back where we started. Take losing weight for example. You lose 20-50 lbs and before you know it, somehow it’s back? Remember 96-98 percent of our behavior is habitual and based on our paradigms which are stored in our subconscious mind.

Someone once said the subconscious is Gods way of making good automatic for us. You might think decisions are made by your conscious mind and they appear to be, but that is not entirely accurate.

“Higher cognitive processing in the cerebral cortex can occur without consciousness. The regions of the brain responsible for the emotions and motives, not the cortex, direct our conscious attention.”

In my coaching program, I explain that if you want new and better results you need to shift your paradigm. I challenge everyone my clients and hold them accountable until necessary changes have been adopted. You can not outperform your beliefs. But, once the new paradigm is in place quantum leaps occur. Growth becomes exponential.

One of the reasons an accountability partner is crucial has to do with the fear that springs up from the changes being made. Fear is part of the auto-correction process/cybernetic mechanism (subconscious paradigm). At best you feel uneasy, at worst it can be terrifying. Depends on the paradigm.

In my six month program where I guide you through 12 lessons, we touch on this in almost every lesson.

Business Paradigms

Business paradigms with regard to modeling are not always as ingrained and hard to change as personal paradigms, but corporate culture (the shared values, attitudes, standards, and beliefs that characterize members of an organization) can be more difficult to redirect. It takes training and attention. In Covey’s book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” he suggested getting staff to contribute to a mission statement, as one way to change a culture and get it adoption automatically. Best to get participants emotionally involved, get them to really come from the heart.

“You never change things by fighting against the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the old model obsolete.” – Buckminster Fuller

Corporate culture and business models are also paradigms. A wonderful little book was written called “Who Moved My Cheese“, wherein the author describes businesses that became obsolete mainly due to their inability to shift their paradigm and adapt to change quickly.

Uber is a great example of a paradigm shift within the taxi industry. Uber is basically a payment gateway app that connects drivers and people who need a ride. Whats happens to Uber if people find a way to connect and exchange money without them. Bye, Bye Uber! If there are any investors reading this, keep an eye on Blockchain Technology to change a whole lot of paradigms.

With my business coaching clients, I like to do a business audit and see what’s working and what paradigms may need updating with the company leaders and staff. When you get your people to unlock their hidden potential and shed their limiting beliefs there performance will astound you. You will think to yourself where has been this person been all this time.

If any of this resonates with you I would like to offer you a free coaching call no strings attached, absolutely no cost to you. If what you discover provides enough value perhaps you will become a client, If not, I will wish you well and thank you kindly for your time.

Have you ever got the idea that you might be afraid of success? Just when things are going good you seem to come up short or miss the mark. You might have got into the gym and started seeing improvements, or been on a diet and then gradually fall off. Or maybe a thousand different reasons seem to be doing a two-step shuffle, one step forward and then two steps backward.

This failure to succeed or get ahead, seemingly because you are afraid of success is due to your predominate self-image. We store our self-image in our subconscious. Some people would call this a paradigm. What it is called is not important but knowing it is the reason is important if you are going to grow and get ahead.

Our conscious thinking mind is like an ant and our subconscious mind like an elephant. You cant make lasting changes with will power which is a mental faculty of the conscious mind. You need to make the changes to the subconscious mind. Think of the subconscious mind like a programmed thermostat. You know the thing that controls the HVAC system. You set the thermostat for a certain temperature and if the room gets to warm or too cold it makes adjustments to regulate the temperature.

For example, you might go on a diet and you may even be doing well for a time, but the subconscious is paying attention to the programmed self-image (like the set temperature). once you start weighing less than the perceived self-image, start getting more attention than the programmed self-image thinks is appropriate, it kicks in and says you will eat chocolate cake. This happens with income, happiness, weight, relationships, you name it.

You can never outperform your own self-image. You have to create a new one or you will self sabotage yourself over and over again. You know better but do the opposite. This is one of the important aspects I teach in my Thinking Into Results coaching program. When you learn to adjust the thermostat you become a mastermind and can literally achieve anything, do anything, and live the way you want.

You are a creator, a thinking center, and your subconscious is the engine that drives your ideas and solves problems for you. I can teach you how to get in harmony with yourself. I can help you raise your level of awareness, and be an accountability partner for you while you are learning this life-empowering lessons.

It has changed my life and it could change yours too. Set up a free coaching call with me to learn more about this topic and how I can help you. <a href=”https://schedulicity.com/scheduling/MKCEHF” target=”_blank” rel=”noopener noreferrer”>Schedule A call with this link</a>

 

Michael G Kern, CADC Success Coach / Mentor Certified PGI Consultant (630) 786-6464 #Mentaldieter https://www.facebook.com/mentaldieter/

Consciously we can only hold one or two thoughts at a time. And only one idea can really get the most attention. Also, since it is our conscious mind that feeds ideas to our subconscious,  wouldn’t you agree it is important to form or keep the habit of thinking positively.

Most people identify themselves as their conscious mind, this is because the conscious mind has the ability to think and reason, the ability to imagine and create. BUT it is their SUB_CONSCIOUS mind that really runs the whole show.

Beliefs and emotions are stored in the subconscious mind, this is where your self-image is formed and held ready to influence your every decision. Let that soak in for a second… (reread this sentence).

This is why YOU cannot outperform your beliefs. Want to know what you believe? Look at your successes and results, they paint an accurate picture of your beliefs.

I will get into self-image in upcoming blog articles and seminars but for now, let’s keep looking at the subconscious and how we can reprogram or influence it.

We do this with our predominant thoughts. Start now and form the habit of casting out negative thoughts. Catch yourself complaining or chewing on resentment or worrying and doubting and just stop. Don’t beat yourself up about it, Say stop! and have a positive affirmation ready to play in your head.

This is how we reprogram and change our subconscious, through repetition of new ideas and through what I like to call “thinking feelingly”

As you overwrite the old ideas the new ones will transform your life. The better you come to understand this information, just that much faster will you see real results, the results you want.

Practice dieting on positive thoughts, identify negative ones and overwrite them with affirmations of the truth until they seep into your subconscious. Also, if you identify a negative result, write the opposite of that negative in the form of an affirmation and read it every day, say it out loud, say it with faith and conviction. You can record it and listen to it throughout your day. It may seem illogical or silly, but I promise you it works.

Study the subconscious mind for any length of time and you will see why this makes perfect sense. Many of the beliefs you have were formed before you knew better. Reprogram your subconscious and create the life you want.

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Michael G Kern, CADC Success Coach / Mentor Certified PGI Consultant (630) 786-6464 #Mentaldieter https://www.facebook.com/mentaldieter/