Happiness Is Not A Gift Or A Place

If happiness were a gift I would gladly gift it to you now, if it were a place I would punch the directions into your GPS with the joy that would be mine for the giving of the directions. Want to be happy? If happiness seems to big a goal right now perhaps reach up the scale for anger or frustration, not being quite as depressed.

As I use the word “depressed” I only mean low vibration or low spirits

I will here and now tell you how to get it for yourself. All the happiness and joy you could contain is here and available to you now. You are the only thing standing in your way. With this short post I will show you how to get out of your own way and stop blocking joy and happiness from reaching you. You only lack awareness of the truth. I promise you by the time you are done reading this you will begin to feel better.

How Much Does Happiness Weigh?

This is a question I often ask people I am trying help with ideas that are totally invisible, and that have existence as an idea or state of consciousness. Feelings have no weight, they exist only as a state of consciousness. And consciousness is purely mental.

But you say this feeling is crushing me, surely it has weight! To this I reply, you give it the weight with your belief and give it vitality by thinking of it. And “according to your faith it shall be done onto you” – bible

BUT I ASK YOU; Who is the doer doing? And then I answer it is only you.

We ourselves hang onto to low vibrations by; refusing to forgive, refusing to accept what is (which is a kind of insanity we are all guilty of), AND THINKING THOUGHTS OF: resentments, frustration, self-pity, unfortunate circumstance, anger, sickness, jealousy, envy, rage, sadness, loneliness, gluttony, thoughts of revenge, imagining negative scenarios, worry, FEAR, shame, guilt, and a trillion other forms of darkness.

Patient: Doctor it hurts when I move my arm like this. Doctor: Don’t move your arm like that. 🙂

The Only Way To Experience Joy Is To Realize The Truth – There Is No Darkness

Understand there is a POWER germ in the word, and that your thoughts are made up of words, and finally you have the POWER to think what you want to think. It is only through ignorance of this POWER that you remain in darkness.

In James Allen’s amazing book “From Poverty to Power” he explains that good and evil have always be described by light and dark. When the sun goes down on our tiny planet, only a part of it is encapsulated in darkness, the rest of the universe is a blaze with light. The darkness is only a shadow cast by the other side of our planet. And so darkness is only ever a shadow by something intercepting the light

If you are in darkness during daylight hours, rip down the walls (Ideas, beliefs, and thoughts) that are casting the shadow. Unblock your soul from the omnipresent light and energy that surrounds us and makes manifest all there is.

” Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind” John 12:2

POWER Germ – The POWER Of The Word

POWER germ is a phrase I borrowed from Genevieve Behrends spectacular book “Your Invisible Power”. Specifically Chapter 11, where she so eloquently explains.

“To establish Joy in your consciousness, just repeat the word “joy” secretly, persistently and emphatically. The Joy germ begins to expand and project itself until your whole being is filled with joy.”

As previously stated; consciousness is all there is, it weights nothing, and is mainly mental/spiritual.

Understand too the Genevieve lost her husband at a young age and was deeply sorrowed and enveloped in loneliness before studying with one of the best mental scientists of all times Judge Thomas Troward.

Unconditional Joy And Happiness

Sow seeds of hope, knowing your consciousness is now expanding. You will get to a point when doing good makes you feel good, and someones attention helps you to feel joy. Though, I caution you not to count on anything outside for your happiness and joy, cultivate your joy germ inside until you experience joy as your normal state regardless whats going on around you.

8 Exercises To Expand The Joy Consciousness

  1. Meditate
  2. Write 10 things your grateful for everyday, maybe do this twice a day.
  3. Exercise physically
  4. Eat good foods and drink plenty of water
  5. Do things you enjoy like a walk on the beach or in the woods, sit fireside reading a good book, stare at the stars at night, go to church or a concert, help someone or be of service.
  6. Affirmations
  7. Set a big juicy goal
  8. Rest and relax
  9. Say one thing you like about YOU or your physical presence. Later try to list ten a day (this is also great if your into mirror work).

Success is a System NOT a Secret

Understand now that we are all operating by a system! Your results are a direct reflection of the system you have bought into. System of Government, System of Laws, System of Beliefs. All the money you earn, your health, fitness, your relationships. perceptions, and even your mental health are part of the system.

Some people call it subconscious programming, some call it paradigms, some call it habits, some call it ignorance, lack of awareness. But, like the laws of the universe none of them work in isolation, it part of a much greater, bigger system. It has been likened to a prison you cannot hear, see, smell, or touch. (The Box)

The system is made up of ideas, emotions (fear/love), experiences, perception, beliefs, data, serotonin, dopamine, till at some point you find your lane. This is my safe spot, or comfy place. And some people hide there despite obvious and negative consequences. You cannot introduce a new idea to the system even if it is true. The system will reject any idea not in harmony with it.

People try to apply the Law Of Attraction to their lives with little or no results because their system is not in harmony with it. We are designed to solve problems and as we “TRY” something, we judge it good or bad, right or wrong, store the data and move on. We base these judgement/decisions with very little experience, especially when we get hurt in experimenting with a new idea.

You would march confidently through a bramble (thorns) a mile long if you knew the prize was worth it. But with our system we never get the prize. Are system gets programmed mainly in our little life and up until our early 20’s. We are like a rat in a maze looking for the cheese. We get rewarded and shocked at different turns until at last we know the course, how to operate without getting shocked. More cheese for the good boys and girls. “Stay in your lane Bro” 🙂

Who taught you how to handle finances, how to navigate relationships, what is love, your self worth, Laws of the universe, even health and nutrition? They don’t teach this stuff in schools, and the ones that do teach things like nutrition, teach lies. Anyone remember the food pyramid they taught in health class in the 80’s?

It feels great to teach, to help people, to put someones hand into the hand of the infinite and enlighten those about us. This is why I love to teach business and personal development. Plus it feels nice to have people look at you with esteem. That’s why there are so many willing teachers. However, those who can’t do teach, is an aphorism for a reason.

If you’re tired of one step forward two steps back, or working long hard hours for little results. Understand you that are trying to fix a broken system, not a broken person or business, a broken system. Its the roots of the tree that need attention, not the individual leaves.

Now you may be asking what this has to do with your business, your sales record, or profit and loss statement, and I answer EVERYTHING! The fish smells from the head on down. If your in charge and your not getting the results you want or expect you have bought into a broken system too. When you change the inside the outside changes automatically. I know this because I am not just a teacher I am a student.

If this post resonates with you, I urge you to reach out to me, or one of my coaches. Message us on Facebook and we will set up a free 30 minute discovery call to help you. https://www.facebook.com/mentaldieter

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Wealth Mindset – How to Get Rich & Be Successful

If a persons’ concept of themselves were different, everything in their life would be different. -Neville

Understand right from the beginning that you are the maker of yourself, that the thoughts you diet on are dressing your world. Your mind is moving things into form. That today’s happenings are yesterday’s thoughts and ideas. Successful people since the beginning of time have known this and taught it. To have the health you need a health consciousness, to have wealth you need a wealth consciousness, to get rich you need to control your mental diet.

To get new results you need new thoughts. The same old thoughts produce the same old results. You need to break out of your habitual way of looking at yourself and the world if you would enjoy better anything. Most people focus on circumstances and the results they are experiencing, and so they get more of the same!

Successful people set a goal, and the most successful people live as though their wish was already fulfilled. They deny appearances and focus on their life as it is now that their wish is fulfilled. Even if only in their imagination for now. You begin moving into the new state as soon as you give it energy and starve the old state of mind.

The First Step Towards Health Wealth & Joy

To do things in a way you want to do them, you will have to acquire the ability to think the way you want to think – To think what you want to think is to think truth regardless of appearances. -Wattles

If you are experiencing ill health you need to stop paying it any mind except for what is absolutely necessary for dealing with things are they are now. Stop talking about it to anyone unless they can do something about it. Stop accepting the so-called reality and prognosis of limited people. Forgive whatever your current limitations are and start seeing and BELIEVING yourself as Whole, Perfect, Strong, Powerful, Loving Harmonious and Happy. If a doubt comes to you cast it out as a sin and focus on the truth.

This is not theoretical or metaphysical woo-woo stuff. I could state scientifically proven studies. Your mind is the most powerful force on the planet, it is already healing you, it is doing it now as we speak regenerating every cell in your body. If you cut yourself do the doctors heal you or does your body heal itself? Now, if you are in an accident and your arm is cut off, pick that sucker up with your good arm and get your ass to the doctors.

All things when they are admitted are made manifest by the light, for everything that is made manifest is light -Ephesians 5:13

You are what you consent to and believe as true. All concepts of yourself are available to you now. If you would but build a new concept in your imagination you could then move into it.

To get rich you need to acquire the right mindset. I made my case with health as nobody is rich without health. But the process is the same for whatever you would like to have.

How To Get Rich

To get whatever it is you want, you have to start moving into the spirit of it. You cannot, for instance, build an image of a firm muscular body and have thoughts of swimming in chocolate cake. That’s a double binding message your mind can’t work with. Really focus on what it is you would have and spend some time living there in your imagination. See yourself thanking friends for their compliments on your appearance, see the look of shock on your doctor’s face as he says its a miracle. Miracles are just things we can’t explain YET.

Pay attention to your mental diet and predominant attitude. You cannot go into your closet for a sweet hour of pray and meditation once a week and expect your dreams to incarnate. Start and end every day this way and don’t close the book as you go about your day or drift off to sleep, wear the mood with you and live emotionally as though it is done. “It”, being your wish fulfilled.

Mind is the master power that moulds and makes and man is mind and evermore he takes the tool of thought to shape what he wills brings forth a thousand joys a thousand ills, he thinks in secret and it comes to pass, environment is but our looking glass -James Allen

Write your goal on a card, carry it with you, rewrite it every day, “FEEL” as though it is done. Say it out loud every day.


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How To Manifest Anything

To manifest what we want, we need more than a sweet hour of prayer or vain repetition or affirmations of special words. There is a higher law than the Law Of Attraction… It is the Law Of Vibration. You cannot attract what you want until you get on the same vibration.

Understand, we live simultaneously on three plains of existence; Spiritually/Emotionally, Intellectually, and Physically. Most people are trying to change things and attract abundance and health either by: intellectually (with thoughts), physically (try harder / exert will). Until the spiritual aspect is incorporated with the other two, little gains will be experienced and permanent desired results will remain out of reach.

First, you have to desire a thing, truly want it. Next, you have to make a decision you will have it. I don’t care what IT is. Are you interested in having it or committed to having it?

There is a difference between interested and committed. When you’re interested in something you will do it only when it’s convenient. When you’re committed to something, you will accept no excuses only results. – Kenneth H Blanchard

You must feel in your conscious mind of possessing that which you desire. You must completely fuse with the state you would manifest. This persistent feeling will shift your subconscious mind which will immediately begin to clothe you and your world by most convenient means available.

This is why you don’t have to know how it will happen. What stops a lot of people is the rational need to know how it will happen, their intellectual mind.

All things, when admitted, are made manifest by the light: for everything made manifest is light  – Ephesians 5:13

Understand we are the creators working in harmony with the source. We manifest with our imagination and when we admit our imaginative world as true, it comes to pass. This is how everything you can feel, see, smell, taste or touch has been created. First in the mind and then in our world… As within, so without!

You are the doer doing, imagine better than the best and live now in the assumption of your desired ideal.

I know this is a big pill to swallow. This is why in my coaching programs: “Lead The Field” and Thinking Into Results” I work with you one on one, from goal to manifestation and keep you on track. You are going to be so happy every day when you begin one of my coaching programs, facilitated by me and Bob Proctor.

Quantum leaps become the expected growth trajectory once you understand the principles and laws that govern this world of ours.

We are constantly running seminars and webinars. these are a good way to experience some of my coaching and get exposed to our materials. The next event is in just a few days. Paradigm Shift – A three-day training with Bob Proctor – update your thinking, and upgrade your life Buy Ticket Here – I will be hosting a closed Facebook Group: coaching and answering questions along with daily key point posts and wrap up live videos. The Live stream will have a 14-day replay and a great workbook you can download. Contact me when you buy the ticket so I can add you to our group on Facebook #mentaldieter

How To Change Your Life – Guaranteed

Unless we change how we react to life, our lives change very little. And what is our life but an accumulation of our thoughts and reactions? My life, my income, relationships, happiness, and even my health are all based on my choices and reactions. If I want better results I have to react differently to the same circumstances.

It can be a bitter pill to swallow, that somehow I am responsible for the results in my life. However, once I accepted this idea, things began to improve for the better. With acceptance and an open mind, I found a key that opened a door to a new reality.

I use the word reaction rather than action, to bring attention to the law of cause and effect and also the part we play with our “thinking“. We use our thinking to navigate the appearances of circumstances, and then to decide/choose the next best course of action. We react to circumstances/life, and life, by perfect law, reacts to us.

So you see if we keep reacting the same way, little if anything will change, and we keep getting the same results. Einstein said, “We can’t fix a problem on the same level of mind that created it”.

Letting You Off The Hook

The truth is you (ego, id) are not entirely responsible. The misconception is to think you can think, that your conscious mind is in control when the truth is that, 96-98 percent of all your reactions are habitual (habits) controlled by your subconscious mind. And our subconscious mind is home to our paradigms.

Paradigms are our beliefs, what we “believe to be true emotionally”.

Our paradigms get formed through our sometimes limited perception and awareness, concepts that feel true based on our current level of understanding. However, these “BELIEFS” are not “THE TRUTH”. Things appeared to be a certain way for a time, which made us feel a certain way, and right or wrong, we now react as if our beliefs are facts.

The conscious thinking mind has been likened to an ant, and the subconscious emotional mind likened to an elephant. Without shifting the elephant, AKA the paradigm, you get little permanent change for the better. The funny thing is that, most people think the ant is in charge, this is why we get frustrated and give up.

Enter A New Reality – Shifting the Paradigm

“All things when they are admitted are made manifest by the light, for everything that is made manifest is light – Ephesians 5:13”

Only what we are willing to admit as true of ourselves can manifest in our life. This is why we can never outperform our beliefs and why we keep getting the same results. It is up to us to reprogram the beliefs that no longer serve us, or have never served us.

Take your own concept of yourself for example, are you smart or dumb, effective or inefficient, rich or poor, brave or fearful? Any negative concept of yourself held in your mind will limit your potential. But it is your own belief that is holding you back.


Steps To Shifting The Paradigm

The first step to shifting your paradigms is to come up with what you want. What would your ideal life look like? How much money would you make, what kind of home would you live in, would you be doing work that is fulfilling surrounded by likeminded folks, would you be taking lots of time off to enjoy friends and family? Would your predominant mindset be one of confidence, calmness, and courage?

YOU have to decide what it is you want!

Once you have decided what it is you will have, admit it as true in a statement on a piece of paper like this: I am so happy and grateful now that: I have a surplus of money in the bank, that I respond to life with a calm focused mind based on the truth, and fill in the blank (what it is you want).

We shift the paradigm the same way we programmed the elephant in the first place, with feeling, and repetition.

For more information or help with your paradigms please reach out to me. You can call and get a 30-minute coaching call for free, or ask questions on my Facebook page #mentaldieter #paradigms #lifecoaching


There is an amazing 3-day training called Paradigm Shift being put on by Bob Proctor coming up within a week. You can Live stream the event on any screen with an internet connection for like 140 bucks. If all you learned were how to shift paradigms that alone would be worth it, but he goes deep on Goal Setting, Multiple Streams of Income he calls MSI’s, Self Image and so so much more.

The first Proctor even changed my life and got me on the path I was always supposed to be on. The energy during the event is amazing and raises your vibration.

I will be hosting the three-day event in a closed Facebook group where I will be sharing directly with you answering questions and doing a daily wrap up videos. You are going to get access to a 14-day replay and a workbook you can download and work with for the rest of your life. It is over 183 pages of material and quotes and Proctor teachings.

As soon as you sign up you will be emailed the workbook to begin getting familiar. Just message me or email me as soon as you sign up so I can invite you to our closed group. We will have a great time sharing and learning together during this event. Use the link below to learn more and sign up. We are expecting over 10,000 people from all over the world to attend this event. I hope you join us!

Three days Live Streaming Paradigm Shift Training Event

Event – Bob Proctor Paradigm Shift Live Stream Oct 11-13th 2019

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Paradigms have long been understood as the seat of habit. The place change must happen to have good and permanent results. Want to lose weight, make more money, have a more harmonious relationship, enjoy life more? Change your paradigm and it becomes automatic.

Since paradigms are fundamental to success in every aspect of our lives, they should be deeply understood. The best way to learn this information is through repetition.

By signing up for the live stream you will get the added benefit of the replay which you can study and have access to for 14 days.

Inside Show Information

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During this live-stream event, he is also going to explain six mental faculties that we can further develop for still greater success and performance.

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22 Ways Of Raising Your Vibration

Improve your health and happiness and attract into your life abundance with these 22 habitual ways of increasing your frequency… There is a higher law than the Law of Attraction, It is the Law of Vibration. It states that everything is moving, nothing rests.

We are literally living in an ocean of motion. As we ourselves are made up of mostly water, our bodies are digesting, cells dying, cells being created, blood flowing, lungs expanding, neurons firing in the brain. Electrons and atoms are everywhere, you can now photograph them entering and leaving the body. As you change your thoughts the color and density of your energy changes.

And everything around us is too in a state of motion. The different frequencies of vibration cause different forms.

High Vibrational Living

Make these habits in your life and your whole world will transform before your eyes. New and wonderful things will come to pass, you will become lucky, everything around you will improve. This list of ideas to raise your vibration is just a sample of the most popular. They are not meant to be read as the only ways to improve and clear your frequency. Even the methods mentioned here can be expanded greatly.


A habit of gratitude will not only attract good things to you, but it will also keep you from becoming complacent with the way things are. I’m not suggesting you see the glass half full, just that you be grateful for what you have. I have made it a habit to write down ten things I am grateful for every morning.

See if you cant zero in on the time in your life you were the most grateful. Keep this thought handy if you need it throughout your day. Morning gratitude is great, but try to let the feeling linger on you all day, maybe even give thanks at night. There is always something to be grateful for.

Control Your Mental Diet #mentaldieter

This idea goes well with all ideas mentioned here, including the first one gratitude. Fast, Diet, or otherwise eliminate negative thoughts. Don’t dwell on the wrongdoings of others or of how you have been mistreated. Listen to your thoughts and if you catch yourself complaining, play your gratitude card as previously mentioned.

If someone ruined your past, don’t let them ruin your NOW, or your future by giving any attention to those thoughts. As you steer your thoughts, you feed your soul, your subconscious, and steer your life.

Fast from selfishness self-seeking, anger, worry and resentment. Bar the windows and doors of your mind as you would your home to prevent a thief from getting in your home. These kind are thieves that would steal your happiness and peace of mind.

Acceptance & Forgiveness Then Harvest The Good

Two spiritual principles that are sure to help with the first two Ideas, Gratitude and Mental Diet. Acceptance and Forgiveness are sure to keep you free from chewing on what has happened and keeping you trapped in emotional poison.

Accept whatever has happened because the fact is it has happened. Contemplating and thinking about it will not change the reality that it has happened. Forgive that it has happened or that you let it happen or whoever is responsible.

We forgive other people for us, not for them. Holding a resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. We are the only ones who suffer from non-forgiveness.

I used to plan my revenge which I never took, play the victim telling as many people as I could what has happened. It was an identity. But in the end, all I did was feel awful and lower my vibration. Also the more I focused on these negative things the more negative things happened to me. I was planting the seed of being a victim in my subconscious, as sure as I am writing this I manifested more of what I didn’t want.

When you focus on what you do want, you get more of that. So whatever the situation accept it, forgive it and harvest the good. This practice alone will improve every aspect of your life.

Again I am not saying to see the glass as half full, just see it for what it is without judgment. If you have a glass with four ounces of water, then you have a glass that has four ounces of water. When you say this is good and this is bad you are creating a dichotomy. It is what it is… Forgive every moment this is the way to peace of mind and a sustained higher vibration.

Sing | Cheer | Celebrate

This is about releasing (relea-sing) your joy, expressing your love or gratitude. These are action steps sure to get you into a good, good good vibration – Beach boys reference. Go to a sports game and cheer loudly, or sing with feeling in your car to a great tune, or celebrate a victory. Express your love in song, on a card, or on the astral plane if you like.

Get in the spirit with a good feeling through action!


Music was my savior as a child. There was something about getting lost in a good piece of music the soothed my soul, and I confess I love that old-time rock and roll. Thank you Bob Seger! I must have played “Turn The Page” 200 times as a teen. I think I wore out that record. Don’t even get me started with the guitar solo in Purple Rain by Prince.


Lose yourself in a game you enjoy. Play as a child would without a care in the world. Forget all responsibility, take a mental vacation from being a grown-up and just have some fun. Take a bike ride and jump off the curb, wrestle with your kids or pets and let go. Be as present as possible.

All work and no play makes for low vibration. Schedule some playtime today, make a play date… Please share in the comments some ways you like to play.


Take a deep breath and just relax. Let your shoulders drop right now. You can do this several times a day. Check-in with yourself and see how you are doing. Are you taking life too seriously? A course in Miracles says “nothing real can be threatened, and nothing unreal exists”.

“Be still and know that I am – Bible”

Take A Shower

I don’t know what it is about taking a shower, I do some of my best thinking in the shower. I unwind and tune in all at the same time. I don’t know if this one is on anyone else list of raising their vibration.

Eat Healthily Food

MSG makes me sleepy and drys my throat out. Foods with flour fog my brain. I pretty much live by a mantra of don’t eat things with ingredients I can’t pronounce or processed food, generally things with more than five ingredients.

Drink Plenty Of Water

Sometimes you think your craving food when all the body is saying is it’s thirsty. Water is needed for digestion and nutrient absorption, healthy skin which is the largest organ of the body (I think). We need to take care of the body or our vibration will not be optimum.

Stay Away From Negative People

We all know people who can brighten up a whole room just by leaving it. Try to avoid these people as much as possible. If you are confronted with them take charge of the conversation right away, and be as positive as possible. This will drive them away from you. What most negative people want is a victim buddy, someone to come to their pity party. You are not doing them any good by attending and certainly not doing yourself any good.

I had to prune my social media accounts of some people I love. Just too much poison for me. I don’t love them any less, I just love me more, and my health and happiness.

Connect With Friends & Family

I know for me this is a must, I am a pack animal for sure. I get a little squirrelly if I don’t check in with my siblings and close friends. Here we can practice being present, relaxing, celebrating, playing, drinking water, listening to music, and being grateful, being lovely.

Go To Church

For you, this may be a walk in the woods or on a beach. Staring up at a super stary night, listening to some rock and roll, or actually going to church. Find a way to connect to the source.


This is a great way to raise your vibration. Many of us carry shame and guilt, things we will never tell anyone, stuff thats going to the grave with us undiscovered. This means you are limiting your vibration. Even if you can push it down for a time and forget, your subconscious never forgets. And these things mar our character and self-image. Who will know you ask? Only the most important person on the planet… YOU!

This can be very rewarding. This practice dates way back for a reason.


I know this one thing alone is responsible for lots of dopamine and good feelings, but it also helps me with my confidence and self-image. This one is a no-brainer and sure way keep good vibes.

Get a Massage

Touch alone is therapeutic, but a good massage will improve blood flow, relax your muscles, and promote healing. Massage will also reduce swelling, and alleviate sore muscles. If you can reduce pain even a little your vibration will get a huge boost.

Help Someone

Nothing makes me feel better than a good job done helping someone. This can be used as a distraction from your own concern. If something is troubling you and your struggling, practice self-forgetting, and go help someone else out. There is nothing like volunteering at a homeless shelter, food pantry, or hospital to put things into perspective.

List Your Wins

As already mentioned I like to start my day by writing 10 things I’m grateful for, but I like to end my day on a successful note writing down my wins for the day. I celebrate at least six wins every night before bed. This is a formula for self-confidence too.

Toast your successes! Toast tomorrows success too. Diet on success, lord knows many of us are quick to put ourselves down if we somehow miss the mark, this is a recipe for a healthy self-image (mental diet)

Get Organized

This is especially helpful for people who tend to worry a lot. When we have a plan we tend to feel safer. Every night after you list your wins, plan your next day, write down a few things you want to get done. These will likely become wins too. You are in control of your life. If you don’t get it all done that’s fine too, but this habit will not only keep you from low vibrations, but it will make you more and more successful each day.


Good chemistry is important to keep up your good vibes. I personally take vitamin D and a bunch of B vitamins every day. I take fish oil, a multi, and Co-Q-10 too. I plan to live till 125 years old, so I have to do what I can to preserve this multi-billion dollar body I have been gifted.


I use daily affirmations to program my subconscious mind and reach new goals and affirm my self-image. It is estimated that 95% of all behavior is habitual and controlled by the beliefs we hold in our subconscious mind. Those beliefs were programmed by repetition and perception and can only be changed the same way.

This of autosuggestion as a form of self-hypnotism that is permanent. The added benefit is that all these extra good thoughts go into the makeup of my mental diet. We have all heard “you are what you eat”.


This may be the most important habit of all. My coach calls this living from the inside out rather than the outside in. I am a creator and so are you! It is easy to live through the senses (seeing, hearing, tasting, smelling, and touching). But I choose my reality and create it by denying what my senses tell me. I choose the truth with my imagination.

Heres the thing… Whatever thoughts I sow into my subconscious will manifest in my life. I know this as law!

Emmerson said we become what we think about all day long, Dale Carnegie said: “Any idea that is held in the mind, that is emphasized, that is either feared or revered, will begin at once to clothe itself in the most convenient and appropriate form available.” James Allen said: “We are thought evolved beings,” The Bible said: As a man thinketh in his heart so is he.

So I use my imagination to create the future I want. I started doing this before I realized it. A though help with a feeling will move mountains. When you start to live from the inside out rather than appearances you become a mastermind you can have whatever you want. As within so without. It is all around you. The importance of this cannot be overemphasized.

These are twenty-two ways to not only increase your vibration but if you make them habits will improve every aspect of your life. If you found this helpful at all please share it. Just copy the URL into your favorite social channel.

As always if you’re looking for a coach to help you improve any aspect of your life or business, I would enjoy the opportunity to speak with you. I offer a complimentary 30-minute coaching call.



How To Get Rich

There is a proven formula for getting rich and here it is. Find a way to help as many people as possible. It is as simple as it sounds, you can hold it up to the light, kick it down the street, and when you’re all done, that’s the recipe for wealth. That might sound weird to people who think you have to crush the little guy and walk over the bones of your competition.

I would advise you to be creative rather than be competitive! I got out of the 9-5 rat race via affiliate marketing. I used my expertise to educate people (help them), I even went so far as to find the best deals for them, and then provided a link so they could buy the product or service I recommended. For my service, I was rewarded with a commission each time a purchase was made.

When I started blogging back in 1997, I could barely spell or make coherent sentences. When I would go back and read some of those articles, I didn’t even know what I was saying. I would read a sentence and be like, what??? But you have to start where you’re at.

If you think about any company that is really doing well, you will find they are serving people better, faster, or have better faster products. Having a better product is easy, no need to compete, just create a better product. Find the common pain of a lot of people and fix it.

Look at how perfect the Air B&B idea is… People wanted a nice place to stay without having to spend so much (pain = expensive hotels) and combined it with people who wanted to generate income with their property (pain = need more income or empty rentals) and solved the pain for both groups. We call that a win-win!

There has never been an easier time to get rich, look at the info products industry. It is quietly earning billions of dollars every year. People want to learn. You don’t even have to leverage your expertise. You can hire an expert to write content or give the information that you need.

“You can have everything you want in life if you will just help enough other people get what they want”

– Zig Ziglar

“People have it backward, they think if you make a lot of money you’re successful, no… If you’re successful you make a lot of money. Making money is the result of being successful” -Earl Nightingale

Being successful is helping other people get what they want. The money you’re seeking will always come from someone else and they will only give it to you for something you have that they want. There is no such thing as something for nothing.

Making money is easy. I feel sorry for all the people that trade time for money. I know the pain, I did it myself for over 25 years. I wasted even more time trying to figure out how to run a business. I started a business and put in so many hours that a McDonald’s employees made more than me if we counted all the hours and divided by what I was actually making.

They don’t teach you how to think properly in school. They load you up with a lot of information but then you’re left to figure things out on your own. If you read the book “Rich Dad Poor Dad,” by Robert Kyosaki, then you begin to understand the different paradigms between advice from a middle-class father vs a rich father.

That book was written before so much information was readily available, but people are still following the old paradigm that stopped working even before the book was published back in 1997. Does loading up your brain with a bunch of information that is readily available online, for a tuition fee of 60k-200k really still look like a solid plan?

I have friends with student loans who are being threatened to have their license pulled due to old student loans. #studentloanjustice

The founder of Ford automotive once sued a newspaper when they called him an ignorant pacifist. Under cross-examination, they asked Mr. Ford a bunch of general knowledge questions, and when he was about fed up he said, “why should I clutter up my mind with junk when I have a row of buttons on my desk that when pushed, will summon a man that can answer any question I may have”? Sounds like Ford had a prehistoric Google.

The Formula For Wealth

Most people are content with just getting by because they do not have a strong enough motive to live better. That’s all most people are lacking is a strong enough WHY… Earl Nightingale said, “Its easier to adjust yourself to the hardships of making a poor living than it is to get out and make a better one”.

Without bringing you up to speed in this article of the power of your subconscious, just know you have to get emotionally involved. For a start, come up with a definite figure and fall in love with the idea of being wealthy. You don’t have to know how you will get the money. This idea that we must know-how is a dream killer. Diet from any negative thoughts and only think of what you want.

Cultivate a burning desire and write down your definite purpose. Get excited about it. Read your desire every night before bed, and think about it when you wake up.

Most of all, look for ways to be of service, find ways to help people. There is plenty of money and a shortage of good ideas. Once you have this burning desire, things will begin happening for you. The things and people that you need will be drawn toward you. New and creative ideas will come seemingly from nowhere.

Remember that your rewards in life will be in direct proportion to what you give. It is the law of prosperity and there is no way around it. Keep an open mind, use your God-given creative imagination, and find a way to help people. When you are successful at helping others, the money will come, as sure as the sun will rise.

One last piece of advice, I understand if you feel that I have a conflict of interest, get a business development coach. It will turn decades into months and slingshot you to wealth.


Worrying Is A Bad Habit

The child in the movie “The Matrix” tells Neo “Do not try and bend the spoon with your mind, that’s impossible, instead only try to realize the truth.

NEO: What truth?

CHILD: There is no spoon. Then you realize it is not the spoon that bends, but only yourself”.

Are You “AWARE” Of A Low Level Of Unease?

Do angst, worry, anxiety, fear or stress keep you up at night, prevent you from doing and saying what you want? Are they robbing you of your peace of mind? If you’re like most people the answer is yes.

As James Allen noted: We are thought evolved beings. Fear is only a phycological construct, it is only as real as we make it. Some would argue our whole world is a projection of our conscious mind.

Fear only grows with attention, withdraw attention and it goes away. Most people have formed the habit of worry. Do not resist it, you must renounce it. Resistance means you will give it attention. Renouncing is casting out. Provide the idea or thought no more attention.

Catch yourself worrying or with a pessimistic attitude and say cancel or stop, and change your focus to something positive. At first, this will be hard to do, but if you persist, you will form a new and lovely habit.

Fear has been called an evil and corrosive thread that has been woven into the fabric of life. It is certainly responsible for other negative emotions and the ruin of many lovely ideas plans and situations.

Starting a New Habit

Give some thought to the Matrix Spoon analogy “There is no Spoon.” Fear is not real, only our insecure irrational minds make it so. Hence there is nothing to fear but fear itself.

The first step is to make a decision that you are going to form a new habit. You are here now reading this because your awareness is growing and you are developing, so congratulations on that!

We have a creative power within us that will make us into whatever we give our attention too.

You Have a Choice – You could ponder a new self-image (confident/secure), a lovely prayer, an affirmation, read a book, meditate, have sex, go to the gym, go help someone else with their problems, or anything other to give attention to any negative ideas.

Awareness & Acceptance

Whatever darkness is exposed to the light becomes light. -Bible

What is fear but darkness cast by our own imagination? This is the truth that Jesus says will set you free.

Worrying is like praying for something you don’t want. If “we become what we think about all day long” as Emmerson says, what harvest will we reap from sowing seeds of fear?

I once had so much anxiety I thought I might need medication to ease my troubled mind. But by slowly changing my mental diet, with a healthy helping of spiritual principles like acceptance and forgiveness, reading and meditating, one day I had an intense feeling of peace wash over me.

In Echart Tolles book “The  Power of Now” he describes it as if an air conditioner that was always on in the background, and that I didn’t even know was there, was then suddenly shut off. I wish everyone could experience that level of deep peace and joy that comes once the air conditioner is shut off.

You’re In Control – The Choice Is Yours

What would fear be without imagination? Imagination is a wonderful and powerful tool when used rightly. Used wrongly, it becomes very destructive.

We use affirmations to change our outdated concept of ourselves. To reprogram our habitual thought patterns stored in our subconscious. There is no spoon, there is no spoon, there is no spoon. Remember you are in control of your predominant thoughts, your mental diet, your concept of “reality”. Why not focus on the truth and of lovely things.

Self Love – Self Esteem

If you find your not good company for yourself, it is a sure sign that you are in need of a new and sustained mental diet. There is nothing wrong with you. I was not good company for a long long time, and so I know what I’m talking about.

“There is still time to change the road your on” – Led Zepplin

Chances are you have no idea who you truly are, and are just weighted down with a heavy burden of the past and current circumstances. All these are but appearances. These thoughts appear true, but the image they portray is incomplete.

All that is exposed to the light will become light, and it is only your self that is causing the darkness.

There is a great quote from the movie Spanglish: “Sometimes low self-esteem is just good common sense.” This is for people who are not behaving themselves. Maybe consuming too much food or drugs (yes alcohol is a drug), or caught up in any other compulsive behavior.

When we are young, we seek approval of others and are self-centered, if this is not outgrown it can turn into a negative paradigm that plays out in our lives and leads to self-avoidance, and a self-image that we are not enough. We judge ourselves and play the victim too. The victim identity is a self-defense mechanism of the ego. The ego and self-image need an adjustment.

Here is a prescription: Stop worrying about what others people are thinking of you, its none of your business anyway. This kind of self-absorbed thinking strengthens the false image and insecurity. It becomes a loop of negativity as you will never be perfect enough. What your subconscious mind doesn’t realize is that nobody is perfect. We are all perfect in our imperfection.

Stop judging yourself, diet for a while from these thoughts. If a self-condemning idea or thought should pop into your mind, have an affirmation of the truth ready to replace it. Also, start accepting your shortcomings, embrace your uniqueness.  Again, we all have shortcomings. Seek, discover and be grateful for where you are a born natural. Find a way to bless others with your gifts and stay out of your head.  Until the new self-image is established, consider your mind a bad neighborhood and stay out of it.

Don’t associate with or tolerate anyone who puts you down or makes fun of you. You likely have subconsciously sought out some of these people to make you feel comfortable. Yes, subconsciously you needed these people to feel safe, I know its weird. Also, expect to feel uncomfortable during your transition from these false old ideas of yourself to your new enlightened understanding of as all as limited in some way. You’re not as bad as you think you are.

I know people including myself that “felt less than”, that wrote down everything they felt guilty or ashamed of and went and confessed it to a closed mothed friend or priest. Only to have the other person share similar stories. Confession is good for the soul.

Most important is to build a new self-image and claim it. You have to overwrite the old immature self-image, the one you created with your limited understanding and awareness. Get with people who will love you until you can love yourself.

Other things that cut us off from feeling happy joyous and free are Resentment, Self-pity, Pessimistic Attitudes, Complaining or just Negativity in general. Adopt a new optimistic attitude and begin to expect good things. As you change your vibration good things will begin to happen for you.

“Heaven holds a place for those who pray” – Paul Simon

Write a new self-image and read it every day, several times a day. Imagine what it feels like now that you are this person, act like this person, and carry the feeling around with you, let the feeling linger. If you have problems, stop thinking about them unless there is something you can do about it. Find a way to help someone else with their problems.

“If you are humble nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are”. – Mother Teresa

I once heard someone say they were an ego-maniac with an inferiority complex, and I really identified with that at the time. What I know now is that I didn’t even really know myself. I was so self-obsessed, so self-conscious I did not see the whole picture. Look at the whole picture of you. If you are like most people you have some good traits and some growing to do. Be patient with yourself, as God is not finished with you yet. As you start to see the whole picture and focus on your strengths you let the light in. Let there be light!

It would help to get with a coach or friend to help you maintain your new self-image. You are forming a new habit, and habits can be hard to form. Maybe give me a call and let me coach you up a little? There is nothing to be embarrassed about. I found that the things I once thought I would bring to the grave, turned out to be nothing in the light of day.

I highly recommend two books on this subject:

  1. The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
  2. Psyco-Cybernetics – Maxwell Maltz

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