Author: Michael Kern

Unless we change how we react to life, our lives change very little. And what is our life but an accumulation of our thoughts and reactions? My life, my income, relationships, happiness, and even my health are all based on my choices and reactions. If I want better results I have to react differently to the same circumstances.

It can be a bitter pill to swallow, that somehow I am responsible for the results in my life. However, once I accepted this idea, things began to improve for the better. With acceptance and an open mind, I found a key that opened a door to a new reality.

I use the word reaction rather than action, to bring attention to the law of cause and effect and also the part we play with our “thinking“. We use our thinking to navigate the appearances of circumstances, and then to decide/choose the next best course of action. We react to circumstances/life, and life, by perfect law, reacts to us.

So you see if we keep reacting the same way, little if anything will change, and we keep getting the same results. Einstein said, “We can’t fix a problem on the same level of mind that created it”.

Letting You Off The Hook

The truth is you (ego, id) are not entirely responsible. The misconception is to think you can think, that your conscious mind is in control when the truth is that, 96-98 percent of all your reactions are habitual (habits) controlled by your subconscious mind. And our subconscious mind is home to our paradigms.

Paradigms are our beliefs, what we “believe to be true emotionally”.

Our paradigms get formed through our sometimes limited perception and awareness, concepts that feel true based on our current level of understanding. However, these “BELIEFS” are not “THE TRUTH”. Things appeared to be a certain way for a time, which made us feel a certain way, and right or wrong, we now react as if our beliefs are facts.

The conscious thinking mind has been likened to an ant, and the subconscious emotional mind likened to an elephant. Without shifting the elephant, AKA the paradigm, you get little permanent change for the better. The funny thing is that, most people think the ant is in charge, this is why we get frustrated and give up.

Enter A New Reality – Shifting the Paradigm

“All things when they are admitted are made manifest by the light, for everything that is made manifest is light – Ephesians 5:13”

Only what we are willing to admit as true of ourselves can manifest in our life. This is why we can never outperform our beliefs and why we keep getting the same results. It is up to us to reprogram the beliefs that no longer serve us, or have never served us.

Take your own concept of yourself for example, are you smart or dumb, effective or inefficient, rich or poor, brave or fearful? Any negative concept of yourself held in your mind will limit your potential. But it is your own belief that is holding you back.

TRY TO REALIZE THE TRUTH

Steps To Shifting The Paradigm

The first step to shifting your paradigms is to come up with what you want. What would your ideal life look like? How much money would you make, what kind of home would you live in, would you be doing work that is fulfilling surrounded by likeminded folks, would you be taking lots of time off to enjoy friends and family? Would your predominant mindset be one of confidence, calmness, and courage?

YOU have to decide what it is you want!

Once you have decided what it is you will have, admit it as true in a statement on a piece of paper like this: I am so happy and grateful now that: I have a surplus of money in the bank, that I respond to life with a calm focused mind based on the truth, and fill in the blank (what it is you want).

We shift the paradigm the same way we programmed the elephant in the first place, with feeling, and repetition.

For more information or help with your paradigms please reach out to me. You can call and get a 30-minute coaching call for free, or ask questions on my Facebook page #mentaldieter #paradigms #lifecoaching

Invitation

There is an amazing 3-day training called Paradigm Shift being put on by Bob Proctor coming up within a week. You can Live stream the event on any screen with an internet connection for like 140 bucks. If all you learned were how to shift paradigms that alone would be worth it, but he goes deep on Goal Setting, Multiple Streams of Income he calls MSI’s, Self Image and so so much more.

The first Proctor even changed my life and got me on the path I was always supposed to be on. The energy during the event is amazing and raises your vibration.

I will be hosting the three-day event in a closed Facebook group where I will be sharing directly with you answering questions and doing a daily wrap up videos. You are going to get access to a 14-day replay and a workbook you can download and work with for the rest of your life. It is over 183 pages of material and quotes and Proctor teachings.

As soon as you sign up you will be emailed the workbook to begin getting familiar. Just message me or email me as soon as you sign up so I can invite you to our closed group. We will have a great time sharing and learning together during this event. Use the link below to learn more and sign up. We are expecting over 10,000 people from all over the world to attend this event. I hope you join us!

Three days Live Streaming Paradigm Shift Training Event

The child in the movie “The Matrix” tells Neo “Do not try and bend the spoon with your mind, that’s impossible, instead only try to realize the truth.

NEO: What truth?

CHILD: There is no spoon. Then you realize it is not the spoon that bends, but only yourself”.

Are You “AWARE” Of A Low Level Of Unease?

Do angst, worry, anxiety, fear or stress keep you up at night, prevent you from doing and saying what you want? Are they robbing you of your peace of mind? If you’re like most people the answer is yes.

As James Allen noted: We are thought evolved beings. Fear is only a phycological construct, it is only as real as we make it. Some would argue our whole world is a projection of our conscious mind.

Fear only grows with attention, withdraw attention and it goes away. Most people have formed the habit of worry. Do not resist it, you must renounce it. Resistance means you will give it attention. Renouncing is casting out. Provide the idea or thought no more attention.

Catch yourself worrying or with a pessimistic attitude and say cancel or stop, and change your focus to something positive. At first, this will be hard to do, but if you persist, you will form a new and lovely habit.

Fear has been called an evil and corrosive thread that has been woven into the fabric of life. It is certainly responsible for other negative emotions and the ruin of many lovely ideas plans and situations.

Starting a New Habit

Give some thought to the Matrix Spoon analogy “There is no Spoon.” Fear is not real, only our insecure irrational minds make it so. Hence there is nothing to fear but fear itself.

The first step is to make a decision that you are going to form a new habit. You are here now reading this because your awareness is growing and you are developing, so congratulations on that!

We have a creative power within us that will make us into whatever we give our attention too.

You Have a Choice – You could ponder a new self-image (confident/secure), a lovely prayer, an affirmation, read a book, meditate, have sex, go to the gym, go help someone else with their problems, or anything other to give attention to any negative ideas.

Awareness & Acceptance

Whatever darkness is exposed to the light becomes light. -Bible

What is fear but darkness cast by our own imagination? This is the truth that Jesus says will set you free.

Worrying is like praying for something you don’t want. If “we become what we think about all day long” as Emmerson says, what harvest will we reap from sowing seeds of fear?

I once had so much anxiety I thought I might need medication to ease my troubled mind. But by slowly changing my mental diet, with a healthy helping of spiritual principles like acceptance and forgiveness, reading and meditating, one day I had an intense feeling of peace wash over me.

In Echart Tolles book “The  Power of Now” he describes it as if an air conditioner that was always on in the background, and that I didn’t even know was there, was then suddenly shut off. I wish everyone could experience that level of deep peace and joy that comes once the air conditioner is shut off.

You’re In Control – The Choice Is Yours

What would fear be without imagination? Imagination is a wonderful and powerful tool when used rightly. Used wrongly, it becomes very destructive.

We use affirmations to change our outdated concept of ourselves. To reprogram our habitual thought patterns stored in our subconscious. There is no spoon, there is no spoon, there is no spoon. Remember you are in control of your predominant thoughts, your mental diet, your concept of “reality”. Why not focus on the truth and of lovely things.

If you find your not good company for yourself, it is a sure sign that you are in need of a new and sustained mental diet. There is nothing wrong with you. I was not good company for a long long time, and so I know what I’m talking about.

“There is still time to change the road your on” – Led Zepplin

Chances are you have no idea who you truly are, and are just weighted down with a heavy burden of the past and current circumstances. All these are but appearances. These thoughts appear true, but the image they portray is incomplete.

All that is exposed to the light will become light, and it is only your self that is causing the darkness.

There is a great quote from the movie Spanglish: “Sometimes low self-esteem is just good common sense.” This is for people who are not behaving themselves. Maybe consuming too much food or drugs (yes alcohol is a drug), or caught up in any other compulsive behavior.

When we are young, we seek approval of others and are self-centered, if this is not outgrown it can turn into a negative paradigm that plays out in our lives and leads to self-avoidance, and a self-image that we are not enough. We judge ourselves and play the victim too. The victim identity is a self-defense mechanism of the ego. The ego and self-image need an adjustment.

Here is a prescription: Stop worrying about what others people are thinking of you, its none of your business anyway. This kind of self-absorbed thinking strengthens the false image and insecurity. It becomes a loop of negativity as you will never be perfect enough. What your subconscious mind doesn’t realize is that nobody is perfect. We are all perfect in our imperfection.

Stop judging yourself, diet for a while from these thoughts. If a self-condemning idea or thought should pop into your mind, have an affirmation of the truth ready to replace it. Also, start accepting your shortcomings, embrace your uniqueness.  Again, we all have shortcomings. Seek, discover and be grateful for where you are a born natural. Find a way to bless others with your gifts and stay out of your head.  Until the new self-image is established, consider your mind a bad neighborhood and stay out of it.

Don’t associate with or tolerate anyone who puts you down or makes fun of you. You likely have subconsciously sought out some of these people to make you feel comfortable. Yes, subconsciously you needed these people to feel safe, I know its weird. Also, expect to feel uncomfortable during your transition from these false old ideas of yourself to your new enlightened understanding of as all as limited in some way. You’re not as bad as you think you are.

I know people including myself that “felt less than”, that wrote down everything they felt guilty or ashamed of and went and confessed it to a closed mothed friend or priest. Only to have the other person share similar stories. Confession is good for the soul.

Most important is to build a new self-image and claim it. You have to overwrite the old immature self-image, the one you created with your limited understanding and awareness. Get with people who will love you until you can love yourself.

Other things that cut us off from feeling happy joyous and free are Resentment, Self-pity, Pessimistic Attitudes, Complaining or just Negativity in general. Adopt a new optimistic attitude and begin to expect good things. As you change your vibration good things will begin to happen for you.

“Heaven holds a place for those who pray” – Paul Simon

Write a new self-image and read it every day, several times a day. Imagine what it feels like now that you are this person, act like this person, and carry the feeling around with you, let the feeling linger. If you have problems, stop thinking about them unless there is something you can do about it. Find a way to help someone else with their problems.

“If you are humble nothing will touch you, neither praise nor disgrace, because you know what you are”. – Mother Teresa

I once heard someone say they were an ego-maniac with an inferiority complex, and I really identified with that at the time. What I know now is that I didn’t even really know myself. I was so self-obsessed, so self-conscious I did not see the whole picture. Look at the whole picture of you. If you are like most people you have some good traits and some growing to do. Be patient with yourself, as God is not finished with you yet. As you start to see the whole picture and focus on your strengths you let the light in. Let there be light!

It would help to get with a coach or friend to help you maintain your new self-image. You are forming a new habit, and habits can be hard to form. Maybe give me a call and let me coach you up a little? There is nothing to be embarrassed about. I found that the things I once thought I would bring to the grave, turned out to be nothing in the light of day.

I highly recommend two books on this subject:

1. The Four Agreements – Don Miguel Ruiz
2. Psyco-Cybernetics – Maxwell Maltz

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When I say, if I can do it anyone can, you have to understand from 11-17 years of age I was alternating between living on the streets, going to shelters, and bouncing from one foster home to another. My environment was poor, both emotionally and financially and I basically raised myself, teaching myself little of discipline. The last grade I actually completed in a traditional school as a child was the seventh, and at that time I had a fourth-grade reading level.

Even though I couldn’t show up for school, somehow I knew education was important, and so I would actually study on my own, reading psychology books and sociology books at public libraries. As a homeless teenager, I got my hands on some spelling tests from different grade levels so that I could improve my spelling. While living in the Boston subway system I also attended a couple of months of automotive training at ITT Tech. Those student loans followed me to age 27 or 28.

It wasn’t until I was 27 that my growth really took off, this is when I got with my first mentor (Edward H). At this time I started reading as a man thinketh, The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People, basically every self-help book I could get my hands on, including many spiritual texts. This is when I got the ground under my feet in a meaningful way. It wasn’t long after working with Edward that I actually got my GED, went to college, and got my certificate as a counselor. I worked as a counselor for several years before starting my first business.

Human services were very rewarding personally but it just didn’t pay. So I needed to create an income to help support my young family. I had no capital, but I got started all the same founding Big Mike’s Auto Repair.

I love what small business Guru Michael Gerbers says: “Most small business people are suffering from an entrepreneurial seizure. Because they can perform a service well they think they can run a business“. In retrospect, I wish I had gotten a business development coach with my first endeavor. Edward was more of a philosopher and spiritual mentor, he was not suited to consult on business.

Not every business I have started since has been a success, but I learned to cut my losses and take my lessons to the next endeavor. I now have multiple streams of income all doing very well, I live in a healthy body and my relationships are very rewarding. I was actually semi-retired wintering in Thailand when I finally decided what I wanted to be when I grew up.

I’ve always really loved personal development and helping people so I studied and went to seminars, one of my early Inspirations was Anthony Robbins, (Tony Robbins) I did his first personal development course, I found his cassette tapes on eBay for like 12 dollars as suggested by another book I was reading at the time. It was a 30-day program. It helped me to understand his process, and to expand. It really helped me to understand what motivated me. I have to credit his course with vision board work that helped lead to my success.

I eventually went to Tony’s seminars, walked on fire, the whole bit. I love his philosophy and strategies. I carry them in my toolbox.

I remember seeing Zig Ziglar in person for the first time at a leadership development seminar, In my opinion, the best motivational speaker who ever lived. Zig always talked about hope and spiritual principles, his messages always resonated with me. Listening to him in the morning would raise my vibration, and help me to keep my vibration up throughout my day.

It wasn’t until all that recently I discovered Bob Proctor, his material was illuminating. Bob has been studying human potential, sales, and business development for over 58 years now full time. He stared in the movie “The Secret”. He shares everything he’s learned over the 58 years. He too has had the best coaches and mentors teaching him, including the father of the personal development industry Earl Nightengale.

I joined Bob Proctor’s coaching program, and he downloaded 50 plus years of information on human development and potential right into my brain. I had discovered and read a lot of the same books Bob did, but with his help and experience, I have been able to connect all the dots.

Coaching is how to take decades and turn them into months and even days. Unless we have someone to help us control our focus, measure it, and maximize our potential, then we usually don’t get the best results.

Coaching is the best and fastest way I know of to reach mastery and better and better results.

Successful people are decisive and persistent, they make decisions fast, and change them slowly, if ever. Take the first step and “ACT” like the person you want to become. Get a mentor and fast track your success. You’ll be so glad you did!

The Power Of Your Self Image

What I’m about to share with you can transform your whole world overnight, sooner even. First of all, your self-image is not what you think it is. next, you are not in direct control over it, or how it affects your life. Believe me when I tell you it is affecting every aspect of your life. Self-image can be said to be at the core of all results: Your Wealth, Success, Career, Your Happiness, Relationships, and to a large extent even your Health, Everything!

When you change the cause, you change the effect, its a law. Self-image is the cause, so by altering it, you alter everything. I hear you asking, everything Mike? Yes, everything!

Warning*** Just because you know, understand and agree with what I am saying and about to say, it will NOT benefit you without persistent action. This kind of growth can get uncomfortable and without an accountability partner to hold you on course, you are likely to evade your own efforts. This is too important to try and wing-it, get a coach like me, or someone to help you.

“Don’t be surprised if you grow uneasy–that’s a predictable part of the process. When you take a Quantum Leap you ride the situation, but you don’t really control it all that much.” -You2 by Price Pritchett, Ph.D.

Conscious Mind Vs. Subconscious Mind/Emotional Mind

First, understand our conscious mind is like an ant, and our subconscious mind is like an elephant. The elephant always wins! Next, the subconscious mind never sleeps, is always paying attention, never forgets anything.

Consciously, you feed the subconscious ideas which it stores, waiting for proof, always looking to prove or disprove the idea. Ideas are proved and accepted as fact by an emotional impact and by corroboration from trusted sources.

There is an excellent example in Don Miguel’s wonderful book “The Four Agreements”: The story goes one day a little girl was having fun and full of joy, so much so it was pouring out of her and she was singing loudly and bounding around the apartment. Meanwhile, her single mom was coming home with a headache after working a double shift and just wanted peace and quiet. The mom ended up snapping at her little girl and shouting Shut up, Shut up, Stop Singing you have an ugly voice.

Without knowing what she did, the little girl never sang again, in fact, she became shy and didn’t like to speak. Here is a great example of an emotional impact and a trusted source. As little people, we find agreement with much that is not true.

As we get older we are not as open to suggestion from others, but what about the first job you got? What if you didn’t do well and you were chewed out and or fired? What if your grades were poor, what effect might that have had on your idea of how smart you are. Understand that for better or worse our self-image was mostly formed from perception and opinion (not real facts) during the time we were still growing and developing.

Consciously we understand this, but remember the subconscious never forgets. If you truly understand this and forgive yourself, an immediate catharsis may be felt. Forgive yourself, and forgive everyone involved… Echart Tolle –  the great spiritual teacher says: “Forgive every Moment”… This is a wonderful spiritual practice.

James Allen said it best: “We are thought evolved beings”.  And especially,  “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.” (I think the bible said the last one first)

Change Your Self Image and Change Your World

We are given to change our mind and change our world. It is all you… You thinking, you believing, you being, you doing, you having, etc. As soon as you begin to practice these lessons I am offering and change your inner beliefs, you will begin to see results. We are told and I am fond of saying: “As within, so without”.

Read my last article on Paradigms for an even deeper understanding of how negative habits are formed, but I want to move on to the cure!

First a Pep-Talk

Stop running yourself down! Don’t you know how wonderful you are? You are Gods highest form of creation, and you are a creator yourself. The tool by which you may fashion (create) anything, ANYTHING AT All! Is by your own wonderful imagination. You are more miraculous than the stars, more awe-inspiring the oceans, more majestic than the forests.

You can do whatever you set your mind to. The past is dead and does not accurately predict what will happen in the future. So dream, and DREAM BIG, make up your mind once and for all what your great purpose is to be and set out to accomplish it, start now. If your mind should wander down a crummy road, draw it back and focus on your definite aim in life. You have just as much right to abundance and happiness as anyone.

Changing Subconscious Beliefs | Changing Self-Image

Changing the subconscious usually takes time but can happen in an instant with an emotional impact. The way most people go about it is called spaced repetition, or affirmations, also called auto-suggestion in the 1937 book “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill.

The one thing I didn’t tell you yet about the subconscious is that it can not tell reality from fantasy. Whatever thoughts you believe it will accept as true, this is how you were programmed, to begin with.

Use your imagination and create a new and improved self-image. you need to write it out, speak it into existence, record it, play it back for yourself, and drive it home until the subconscious begins applying the new beliefs. You have to act the part as you read it, really feel it. Memorize it and repeat it to yourself throughout the day, every day.

There is a wonderful program from Peggy McColl, she teaches the Law Of Attraction. She uses what she calls a Power Life Script to manifest anything you want in life. It works in perfect harmony with rewriting self-image, as we must first BE… before we can have. This is based on a higher law- The Law Of Vibration. This law of vibration also explains why we cannot outperform our beliefs.

I want to encourage you to get on a free coaching call with me. No strings attached and if you think there is enough value perhaps you will become a client.

Understanding the essence and meaning of paradigm is essential to any type of growth and development. This is because 96-98 percent of all behavior is controlled by our paradigms. A paradigm is a habitual way of looking at anything, it is a multitude of ideas that you hold and which form your beliefs. Simply put a paradigm is a belief

Self-image is one great example of a paradigm. Self-image is formed through a variety of repeated experiences and exposure to the opinions of others (specifically trusted sources). As the father of psychology James Allen noted: “We are thought evolved beings”. Once a paradigm is set, it becomes the rule by which we base decisions.

In Maltz’s Book Psyco-Cybernetics he explains that a paradigm is like a self-correcting Computer. Like a temperature thermostat, once the set norm is out of accepted parameters corrections are automatically made to get back to normal, or “feeling normal”.

This is why we make a decision to do something and even make great strides for a while and then end up back where we started. Take losing weight for example. You lose 20-50 lbs and before you know it, somehow it’s back? Remember 96-98 percent of our behavior is habitual and based on our paradigms which are stored in our subconscious mind.

Someone once said the subconscious is Gods way of making good automatic for us. You might think decisions are made by your conscious mind and they appear to be, but that is not entirely accurate.

“Higher cognitive processing in the cerebral cortex can occur without consciousness. The regions of the brain responsible for the emotions and motives, not the cortex, direct our conscious attention.”

In my coaching program, I explain that if you want new and better results you need to shift your paradigm. I challenge everyone my clients and hold them accountable until necessary changes have been adopted. You can not outperform your beliefs. But, once the new paradigm is in place quantum leaps occur. Growth becomes exponential.

One of the reasons an accountability partner is crucial has to do with the fear that springs up from the changes being made. Fear is part of the auto-correction process/cybernetic mechanism (subconscious paradigm). At best you feel uneasy, at worst it can be terrifying. Depends on the paradigm.

In my six month program where I guide you through 12 lessons, we touch on this in almost every lesson.

Business Paradigms

Business paradigms with regard to modeling are not always as ingrained and hard to change as personal paradigms, but corporate culture (the shared values, attitudes, standards, and beliefs that characterize members of an organization) can be more difficult to redirect. It takes training and attention. In Covey’s book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” he suggested getting staff to contribute to a mission statement, as one way to change a culture and get it adoption automatically. Best to get participants emotionally involved, get them to really come from the heart.

“You never change things by fighting against the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the old model obsolete.” – Buckminster Fuller

Corporate culture and business models are also paradigms. A wonderful little book was written called “Who Moved My Cheese“, wherein the author describes businesses that became obsolete mainly due to their inability to shift their paradigm and adapt to change quickly.

Uber is a great example of a paradigm shift within the taxi industry. Uber is basically a payment gateway app that connects drivers and people who need a ride. Whats happens to Uber if people find a way to connect and exchange money without them. Bye, Bye Uber! If there are any investors reading this, keep an eye on Blockchain Technology to change a whole lot of paradigms.

With my business coaching clients, I like to do a business audit and see what’s working and what paradigms may need updating with the company leaders and staff. When you get your people to unlock their hidden potential and shed their limiting beliefs there performance will astound you. You will think to yourself where has been this person been all this time.

If any of this resonates with you I would like to offer you a free coaching call no strings attached, absolutely no cost to you. If what you discover provides enough value perhaps you will become a client, If not, I will wish you well and thank you kindly for your time.